#OOTD: Lets talk body positivity

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I don’t want to let just my body to define my worth.

In the last couple years, I found myself thinking more and more about my own body image. It’s basically the first thing I think of when I wake up and the last thing on my mind when I go to bed at night.

Today, I want to discuss with you how I’m dealing with my (self) negative body image and how I’m trying to come to terms with everything related body image and positivity.

Working 10 hours behind a desk, sitting for the most part of the day, and managing anxiety on top of all things by eating all the junk food I can find in the vending machines combined with the lack of exercise, are pretty much the summarized reasons why I gained the 10kg in the last two years.

Naturally, my body started to change. My stomach grew and got swollen, and my thighs are 10cms wider than they used to me. Many of the pants I used to wear for my first days at the office don’t fit anymore. Some bras won’t even clasp behind my back without leaving me breahtless.

Suddenly, I noticed I had started wearing the biggest pant size in Argentina — if I ever found a size for me and my big butt!

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In the midst of all this, there’s my area of expertise. The fashion and media industry is cruel. It’s ruthless in the way it tells us the shape and size of our bodies are correct or not for this or that garment. It portrays ideal body shapes with suntanned bodies on Instagram drinking a capirinha because that’s is oh so cool. We see pictures like these everyday in our feeds, e-mails, magazines.

We, unconsciously most of the times, start to judge our bodies and making our self worth all about how big it is, how floppy our arms are, how wide our hips are. We’re told to suck in our stomachs and straighten up. We try to make our hips smaller, horizontal stripes and wearing push up bras because god bless the big boobies gal!

There’s nothing wrong with body types. And no, I’m not here to tell you we’re all beautiful no matter our size — that you already know 😉

I’m here to tell you that your body image, and the image everybody else has of yours and everybody else’s body, has nothing to do with your worth as a person.

Yes, people do judge a book by it’s cover. I do hear a lot these days at the office how slutty a girl is because of how short the skirt she’s wearing is, and we do think that people in suits are professional and trustworthy, but that all has to change.

We can not keep defining ourselves only with adjectives such as pretty, ugly, beautiful, disgusting, gorgeous, awful and hot. We can be smart, passionate, driven, even lazy! But we can not keep defining our self worth solely based on looks.

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What I’m wearing

Sunglasses are from Accessorize
Choker is from Todo Moda
Denim jacket is from Americanino
Stripped crop top is thrifted
Culotte stripped pants are from Zara
Black sandals are from Dafiti



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I once read a post that talks about our initial thoughts on something and the thought that automatically follows. In said post, it was said that our first thought is what we’ve been conditioned to believe, while the second is the one that defines who you are.

I believe in this completely, which is why I believe that there’s nothing wrong with having conditioning thoughts, as long as we learn to identify them and try to correct them as much as we can.

I’m a clear example of this. More often than not, I find myself thinking “ugh I want a flat stomach, mine is so ugly” because I’ve been taught to think that only flat tummies are attractive and “okay”, whatever that means… Therefore, shortly after I start thinking of things like “how am I letting the size of my stomach define me? I should be grateful that it lets in so much delicious food that later becomes energy!”.

I was also one of those people who labeled some girls as sluts. Every woman I thought was being sexy, had their boobs done, or wore red lipstick, was a slut to me. I talked shit about k-pop girl groups because they wore too little clothing and thought that those who were raped “should have taken better care of themselves”.

It’s hard to believe, I know lol. I’m so far from that thought right now! But that’s because I decided to start counterattacking my initial, conditioning thoughts I was taught to have in the first place and replaced them with new ones such as “it’s not okay to call people a slut”, “short skirts are not wrong/bad”, “the victim is never the culprit in rape and there’s no excuse for rape”.

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The Conclusion

The pictures going together with this post were a real challenge to shoot for me. It’s a well known fact in the shpere of fashion that says that crop tops only go well with flat tummies. In these particular photos, I tried to fight that pre-made concept and put on a horizonal stripes crop top with my currently favorite pants from Zara which, OH MY GOD, are my absolute favorite pair of non-jean pants!

Let this be the starting post and point in my life in which I start wearing clothes that make me feel awesome! Instead of buying clothes that fit my body shape, make my tummy less prominent, doesn’t make me look wider/fatter, and a lot bunch of other etceteras ♥.

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En español:

En estos últimos años me estuve encontrando más frecuentemente que antes pensando acerca de mi imagen corporal. Básicamente es lo primero que pienso cuando me levanto, y lo último que tengo en la cabeza cuando me voy a dormir a la noche.

Hoy quiero que hablemos un poco acerca de eso, de cómo estoy manejando mi (propia) imagen corporal y cómo estoy tratando de manejar los pensamientos que se me vienen a la mente.

Trabajando 10 horas frente al escritorio, sentada prácticamente el 90% del tiempo que paso en la oficina, manejando mi ansiedad comiendo todo lo que pueda sacar de la máquina de golosilas del pasillo, y la falta de ejercicio, son algunas de las razones por las cuales subí 10kg en estos últimos dos años.

Naturalmente, mi cuerpo empezó a cambiar. Se me empezó a hinchar y agrandar la panza, y mis piernas son 10cm más anchas de lo que solían ser. Muchos de los pantalones que solía usar mis primeros días en el trabajo ya no me suben. Algunos corpiños se convierten en corsets cuando quiero ponérmelos.

De repente, me doy cuenta que estoy usando en casi todas las marcas de Argentina su talle más grande — ¡eso si es que encuentro talle para mí y mi enorme culo!

En el medio de todo esto, está el ámbito en el que desarrollo mi carrera. La industria de la moda y la comunicación son crueles. La forma en que nos dicen qué tipo de cuerpo es el correcto o no para esta o aquela prenda es terrible. Nos muestran el tipo de cuerpo ideal super bronceado tomándose una caipirinha porque eso es omg tan cool. Nos inundad las imágenes de este tipo en nuestros feeds de las redes sociales, e-mails, revistas.

Muchas veces de manera inconsciente, juzgamos nuestros cuerpos y nuestro valor como personas en base a qué tan grande es, cuán fofos tenemos los brazos o cuán anchas son nuestras caderas. Nos dicen que metamos la panza y nos pongamos bien derechitas. Tratamos de tener cinturas más pequeñas, evadimos los tops con rayas horizontales y usamos corpiños push up ¡porque no hay nada mejor que tener las boobies re paradas!

No hay nada de malo con que haya diferentes tipos de cuerpo. No, no vine hoy a decirles que todas somos hermosas sin importar el ancho y el largo — uds ya saben eso 😉

Vine a decirles que la imagen que tienen uds de su propio cuerpo, la imagen que tienen los demás de sus cuerpos, no tiene nada que ver con el valor que tienen como personas.

Sí, la gente juzga el libro por su tapa. Escucho más seguido que nunca en los pasillos de la oficina lo trola que se ve una chica porque usa faldas super cortas, y seguimos pensando que la gente con traje es profesional y confiable, pero todo eso tiene que cambiar.

No podemos seguir definiéndonos con adjetivos como lindo, feo, hermoso, desagradable, encantador, terrible y hot. Podemos ser inteligentes, apasionados, ¡inclusive vagos! Pero no podemos basar nuestro valor como personas solamente a través de lo físico y externo.

Hace un tiempo leí un posteo acerca de los dos tipos de pensamiento que tenemos cuando nos enfrentamos a algo, lo que sea. En dicho post, decían que el primer pensamiento que se te viene a la mente es lo que te condicionaron a que pienses, mientras que el segundo es el que define quien sos realmente.

Creo en esto completamente; por eso pienso que no hay nada de malo en tener pensamientos condicionantes, siempre y cuando sepamos que lo son y tratemos de corregirlos lo más que podamos.

Soy un claro ejemplo de esto. Debo admitir que, más seguido de lo que me gustaría, me encuentro pensando “ugh, quiero abdominales y una panza chata, la mía es tan fea” porque me enseñaron a pensar que las panzas chatas son atractivas y que están ok… Entonces, tan pronto como me doy cuenta de este pensamiento limitante, empiezo a pensar cosas como “¿cómo puedo dejar que el tamaño de mi panza me defina? Debería estar agradecida que puedo comer comida super rica que después se convierte en energía”.

También fui de esas personas que etiquetaban a algunas chicas como putas. Cada mujer que yo catalogaba como sexy, tenía las lolas hechas, o usaba labial rojo, para mí era una puta. Hablaba mucha mierda acerca de los grupos femeninos del mundo del k-pop porque su vestuario era muy sugestivo y pensaba que aquellas que habían sido violadas “deberían haberse cuidado más”.

Es difícil de creer, lo se lol. ¡Estoy TAN lejos de ese tren de pensamiento hoy por hoy! Y eso es porque decidí empezar a combatir esos pensamientos condicionantes que aprendí a tener en primer lugar y que reemplacé por pensamientos más saludables y maduros como “no está bien decirle a nadie puta”, “usar faldas cortas no está mal/no es malo”, “la víctima nunca es culpable y no hay excusas para una violación”.

La conclusión

Las fotos que están viendo en este posteo fueron super difíciles de sacar para mí, todo un desafío. Es muy común en el mundo de la moda que se diga que los crop tops solamente van bien con una panza bien chata. En estas fotos en particular, quise desafiar ese pre-concepto que tengo y me calcé un crop top a rayas horizontales con unos pantalones rayados de Zara que, DEOS MIOS, de mi colección de pantalones no-jean ¡son mis favoritos!

Brindemos por que este posteo sea el punto en mi vida en el que empiezo a usar ropa que me hace sentir genial en vez de comprar aquellos que: va con la forma de mi cuerpo, hace parecer a mi panza menos prominente, no me hace ver más ancha/gorda, y un montón más de etcéteras ♥.

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3 Comments

  1. 5ft Life

    January 22, 2018

    Absolutely gorgeous outfit, especially those snazzy pants! I also really love your photos for this post, the way you’ve edited them is gorgeous! I understand you may be feeling self conscious, but I think you look fantastic!

    Hayley
    http://www.5ftlife.co.uk

    • Sora

      January 22, 2018

      Thank you so much my dear! <333

      • 5ft Life

        January 24, 2018

        You’re welcome 😀

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