#OOTD: Confidence in fashion

#OOTD: Confidence in fashion

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Or: how to be shameless, how to be confident in your own skin, how not to give a fuck about what people think about you…

The synonyms are endless.

The point is, confidence in fashion is something that I’ve wanted to talk about for a while now.

I’m no Santiago Artemis by no means although I wish I was, but I do have some signature styling and tastes that set me apart from the rest of my pals. Whether it is my flamboyant socks, the layering of impossible clothing or the mixing of prints and textures, people always seem to find it fascinating that I don’t have a care in the world for their reactions.

“Look at the socks Sora brought to work today”

“Guurl, you’re a mess!”

“Where are you going after work with those bold lips?” (esp when I’m wearing burgundy, red or violets).

“You’re not wearing any prints today, what’s the matter? Are you sick?”

“Omg socks with sandals?! Are you out of your mind?!”

“How do you come up with such strange outfits?”

“Do you ever dress like a normal person?”

“You’re such a nerd”

*person walking by suddenly turns around and looks up and down with a confused from on their expression*

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But lets go backwards in time a bit

I don’t know for sure if I’m seeking attention or not. People have always told me that I do, because otherwise I wouldn’t be as opinionated as I am, I wouldn’t dress like I do, and I wouldn’t laugh as loud. I frankly haven’t given much thought to the fact because… well… I don’t exactly care (in my little world, seeking or attracting attention isn’t a bad thing nor does it make you needy/dependent).

But I’ve been like this for as far as I can remember.

My first big fashion shift, you know, the one that made it clear I wasn’t your basic jeans and white T-shirt kind of girl, came when I turned 13 years-old and decided that goth/punk/alternative clothing was something I was attracted to and wanted to try. I’d wear my spikes necklace even at school! Then when I turned 15 I turned into Lolita fashion which was one of the most enriching fashion experiences ever! Even if I wasn’t wearing full Lolita attire, I’d still bring elements of the style into my daily outfits, such as lace bows on top of my head, frilly socks, cutesy Mary Jane shoes, scalloped hems, novelty bags… I even had the hime cut hairstyle!

Fast forward to my last year of college, I dropped Lolita altogether and started transitioning into what you’re seeing nowadays. I recall some of the girls from my country who wore Lolita clothes who also made the shift and currently dress similar to the fashion bloggers we follow nowadays. What an interesting transition, don’t you think? (might actually make a blog post later in the year about this, with photos and everything!).

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I know it will be very hard to believe, but as a teenager I was very VERY shy. Guys, I got panic attacks every time I tried ordering a hamburger from McDonald’s! *facepalm*. So you can imagine how stressful it was for me to go around the city dressed like this in a country that has zero tolerance for people who are different.

Where am I today?

I guess at some point I got used to the unwanted attention, because nowadays I really don’t feel uncomfortable dressing the way I do. When I started my office job 3 years ago, I’d get really upset at my coworkers if they made comments about my style or my body shape. Nowadays, I either shrug comments off when it comes from people with bad intentions, or I laugh with my pals because, at this point, they have accepted I am this way and that I am perfectly okay, in peace and in love with the person I’ve been able to build.

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What I’m wearing

Marble sweatshirt Zara
Denim pants from Zara (this season!)
Unicorn & rainbow socks from Todo Moda (this season!)



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There isn’t a formula as to how to dress confidently in fashion.

But I do think that said confidence is vital for dressing up flamboyantly.

It’s a common denominator I’ve seen in all the people I admire and dress up over the top: Key from SHINee, Lady Gaga, Santiago Artemis. They all feel comfortable in their own skin and believe in themselves and the clothes they choose to wear. They probably feel empowered and represented by their style choices, and undoubtedly will lift their middle finger to people if they dare say anything about the way they dress, because they know that their comments say more about the people making them than themselves.



I’m getting there


Slowly, but getting there. I’m not bothered by comments anymore, and now I find it endearing when my coworkers make comments about my outfits. I feel more respected as well, another fact that comes with self-confidence. People can’t harm nor hurt you when you feel confident about yourself, guys, and people notice that. And guess what? No one’s going to lose their time trying to hurt you when they know they just can’t get to you!

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En español:

O: como perder la vergüenza, cómo sentirse cómodx en tu propia piel, cómo cagarse en lo que la gente piense sobre vos…

Los sinónimos siguen y siguen.

Hace bastante que quería hablar acerca de la confianza al vestir.

No soy Santiago Artemis aunque me encantaría serlo, pero sí tengo un estilo y gustos muy particulares que me diferencian bastante de mis pares. Ya sea cuando uso unas medias algo extravagantes, superpongo prendas imposibles o mezclo estampados y texturas, a la gente siempre le parece fascinar que me importen poco y nada sus reacciones.

“Miren las medias que Sora se puso para trabajar hoy”

“¡Nenaaa, estás hecha un desastre!”

“¿Vas a algún lado después del laburo con esos labios?” (Especialmente cuando estoy usando colores fuertes como bordó, rojo o violeta).

“Hoy no estás usando nada estampado, ¿qué pasa? ¿Te sentís mal?”

“Omg, ¡¿medias con sandalias?! ¡¿Tas loca?!”

“¿Cómo se te ocurren looks tan raros?”

“¿Alguna vez te vestís de civil?”

“Sos tan nerd”

*persona que camina por la calle se da vuelta a mirarme de arriba a abajo con una cara de confusión terrriiible*

Pero vamos un toque para atrás en el tiempo

No se si realmente busco atención o no. La gente siempre me dice que sí lo hago, porque de otra manera no tendría opiniones tan fuertes, me vestiría como me visto o me reiría tan fuerte. Francamente nunca le di mucha bola al asunto porque… bueno… no me importa mucho que digamos (en mi pequeño mundo, buscar o llamar la atención no es algo malo en sí mismo ni hace a nadie needy/dependiente).

Pero son así desde que tengo memoria.

Mi primer cambio así groso a nivel moda, ya saben, ese que me hizo dar cuenta que no soy la típica piba que va de jean azul y remera blanca por la vida, fue cuando cumplí 13 y me empezó a gustar la onda gótica/punk/alternativa. ¡Llevaba mi collar de púas hasta al colegio! Despuéscuando cumplí 15 me metí de lleno en lamoda Lolita, que resultó ser una de las experiencias de moda más fascinantes que he vivido. Aún si no estaba vestida full Lolita, llevaba partes del estilo a donde sea que fuera: moñitos con encaje en la cabeza, medias con puntilla, Mary Janes, bolsitos cute… ¡Hasta tuve el corte hime!

Yendo a finales de la facu, dejé el Lolita y empecé a convertirme en lo que ven ahora. Recuerdo que algunas de las chicas del ambiente también realizaron este cambio y son ahora reconocidas bloguers de moda.

Se que va a ser difícil de creer, pero de adolescente era MUY TÍMIDA. De verdad chicxs, ¡no podía pedir una hamburguesa en McDonald’s sin que me diera un ataque de pánico! Imagínense lo estresante entonces que era ir así vestida por la ciudad, en un país que tiene cero tolerancia por lo diferente.

Así que, ¿dónde estoy parada hoy?

Creo que en cierto punto me acostumbré a la atención, porque hoy en día realmente no me siento incómoda vistiéndome como me vsito. Cuando arranqué mi laburo actual de oficina, me enojaba mucho con mis compañeros cuando hacían comentarios de mi vestimenta o de la forma de mi cuerpo. Hoy en día, si el comentario viene con mala onda hago onda “meh”, y si no me río con ellos, porque han sabido aceptar que esta soy yo y que estoy totalmente ok con la persona que soy.

No hay ninguna fórmula para sentirse confiado cuando llevás puesto algo llamativo.

Pero sí pienso que la confianza es vital para vestir de manera llamativa.

Es denominador común en todas las personas que admiro: Key de SHINee, Lady Gaga, Santiago Artemis. Todos ellos confían en sí mismos y en el estilo que deciden llevar. Probablemente se sienten empoderados y representados en cómo se visten, y sin dudas le levantarían el dedo del medio a cualquiera que quisiera creiticarlos, porque saben que los comentarios mal intencionados dicen más de quienes los están diciendo que de ellos mismos.



Y yo ya voy llegando a eso


Despacito, pero estoy llegando. Ya no me joden los comentarios, y ahora hasta me causa ternura que mis compañeros comentens mi looks. Siento que la gente me respeta más, que es algo que para mí viene con esto de sentirse confiado. Nadie puede lastimarte cuando confiás en vos mismo, y la gente se da cuenta de eso. ¿Y saben qué? ¡Nadie pierde el tiempo tratando de lastimar o herirte cuando saben que no pueden llegar a vos!

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12 Comments

  1. May 11, 2018 / 9:58 am

    I love your outfit girl! I know how you feel when you say you used to be so shy – I’m still shy, but I’ve stopped caring about what other people think (especially when you’re taking pictures of your outfit haha) The blue lipstick looks amazing on you! xx

    • Sora
      May 13, 2018 / 7:27 pm

      Thank you Amita! 😀

      I still got to test my confidence in public; I’ve never taken photos outside of my house (basically because I have no one who can take them for me hahaha).

    • Sora
      May 13, 2018 / 7:15 pm

      Thank you so much Ellie! :*

  2. May 7, 2018 / 10:08 pm

    Hermosaa, adoro tu buzo es un estampado precioso. Tus medias son muy tiernas y combinan perfecto con ese labial!! Ame tus fotos como siempre.

    • Sora
      May 13, 2018 / 7:14 pm

      ¡Muchas gracias linda! ♥

    • Sora
      May 6, 2018 / 9:17 pm

      Thank you Jecky! ♥

  3. May 2, 2018 / 11:08 am

    Ahhh I loved this article so much! Adore your confidence be exactly who you are – finding that can be so difficult and take so long, I have been there too!
    I absolutely adore your style (how cute are the socks in this post?!) – and the blue lipstick is so perfect on you.

    xx
    https://oliviaemily.com

    • Sora
      May 6, 2018 / 9:16 pm

      Thank you so much! 😀 Being complimented by someone with such great style like you makes me feel amazing! ♥

    • Sora
      May 1, 2018 / 7:05 pm

      Thanks for your kind words, Courtney!

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